Thursday, April 28, 2016

TEN

Today you are 10 years old, my darling Lola. I can barely wrap my mind around the fact that you have graced this earth with your sassy presence for a decade now.  How can that be?  Is it that whole time warp thing I have discussed many times before?  Is it true what people say about time passing so slowly when you're young and then as you grow up, it flies by in the blink of an eye? Not even gonna admit that time has flown by because I am old, because I'm still super young and spry, right?  (Dadgummit, who uses the word "spry" anymore?!  If you answered "the elderly," imma fixin' to tar & feather ya'.  Hell's bells!)

Ten.

Ten fingers and ten toes that I didn't even count the day you were born.  Somehow, it seemed so unimportant.  All that mattered was that you were here and breathing and alive.  I cannot tell you how frightened I was the day my water broke, one month before your due date.  All I'd heard your entire pregnancy was that no one knew what the future held.  They weren't sure if you'd be similar to Claire or different.  They weren't sure if you would survive the birth or have major complications. I was asked to answer questions that I was not ready to have to answer about resuscitating you, intubating you, and saving your life.  The answer was always YES, Lola.  Please do all you can, just as you would if she were "typical," I told the doctors.  I hated that word -- "typical" -- because you and your sister were anything BUT typical, and the opposite felt so negative, harsh and unknown.  I prayed every single night for you, sweet girl.  I cried and bargained with all Higher Powers to shave years off of my own life if they'd spare yours. 

Ten.

Ten sonograms.  Ten chances to see you before your birth.  Ten reassurances that you were still alive and stable.  Ten opportunities to fall in love with you even more.  Ten times I prayed that somehow, miraculously, you'd be healed.

Ten sonograms = The number of sonograms necessary for me to realize that you didn't need healing.

You were already everything I had hoped and prayed for.  Your tiny, malformed brain would not define your life or determine your worth.  You were here to experience life just as you were.  The only person who needed to change was ME.  

Ten.

Ten perfect birthdays that we celebrated on your behalf.  Ten special days I wasn't sure I'd get with you just ten years ago.  It is mindblowing all we have been through over the course of the last decade.  Choosing the pictures below really took me back.  It allowed me to remember and sit for awhile with each passing year.  Oh, we have come SO FAR, baby girl.  You have proven time and again that you want to be here.  Thank you so very much for choosing to stay.

Unicorn crown from Nova Sky's Co.
A huge thank you to Fatima Lee for sending this beautiful crown to our sweet, magical Unicorn Princess.
(And one to Claire, also!)

A peek back through the past ten years...

2006

The day of your birth... You were -- and still are -- so perfect, Lola.


2007

This picture reduced me to tears immediately upon seeing it.  I am 100% convinced that the siblings of individuals with special needs are some of the most incredible, considerate, compassionate, loving people on the planet.  Cal has always been everything his little sisters needed.  From the day both of them were born, he loved them unconditionally as only their big brother could.  His ability to see past differences, accept people for who they are, and love with his whole heart has inspired me more than he could ever know.  I could never have survived Lola's diagnosis without his wisdom.  I am so honored to be called "Mom" by these three children of mine.


Possibly my favorite baby picture of Lola EVER!  This is what she thought of therapy toys back in '07!

2008

Notice Cal trying to help Lola blow out her candles?
<SWOON!>

Birthday Princess!

2009

All the cousins!


2010



2011



2012



2013

Post chicken pox.
These pictures were hard to see.  She was SO. THIN.  Notice she is wearing the same dress as in the top picture above, but she literally swam in it.  It is a 6-12 month size (thanks, Jessica!), and at age 7 above, she had lost so much weight due to being ill that she could barely wear that size.  Heartbreaking to see where she was, but we are so grateful for the progress that has been made the past three years!  Lola is seriously the strongest person I have ever known.


2014


#IDFWU

2015



2016
Drop that knife, OJ Mrs. Pocket!!!

#CashandLola

Lola, Kerby, Cal & Claire  ~  Prom 2016


Ten.  

Ten times I kissed you, through tears, just now after reading you this post.  Ten tears streaming down my cheeks.  Ten "I love you's."  Ten seconds of eye contact after telling you that you are the most perfect third child I could have ever asked for in this life, just as you are.  

Happy 10th Birthday, Mrs. Pocket.  I love you to the moon ten times and back.



xo

8 comments:

KatieL said...

Happiest of birthdays, Lola!

karen ostaszewski said...

happy happy birthday sweet little one!! you are perfect and amazing ! love your family and such beautiful pictures. i am a mom of a special needs son, who was to live two weeks, he is now going to be 40! the love and caring and pure unconditnal love gets us all trough everything !!

Amber said...

Happy Birthday sweet girl. I LOVE her little freckles.

mary forgatsch said...

Happy 10th Birthday Lola! �� �� �� �� ��

Lori Truex said...

Happy Birthday sweet Lola!❤

Angela Green said...

Oh what a beautiful day. Happy birthday to you little Lola. Such a perfect blessing. 10 years and a chance to celebrate the beginning of another year. I pray for you to continue to grow and I hope all the wishes in your heart come true... blessings on you sweet birthday girl

shelbyjolicoeur said...

Happy 10th Birthday sweet Lola!!!!! :D

pricey said...

Happy birthday Lola
Sorry it's so late.

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